Remember Gene Robinson? Only a few years ago, he scandalized many by becoming the first openly homosexual Episcopal bishop, and then by marrying his partner.
Welp. Now he's getting divorced. You can read about it here. He's sixty-six years old, but apparently the acrimony is too great to continue with the 25-year relationship. Although he wouldn't say so.
Here's what he did have to say:
“As you can imagine, this is a difficult time for us — not a decision entered into lightly or without much counseling,” Robinson wrote in a letter. “We ask for your prayers, that the love and care for each other that has characterized our relationship for a quarter century will continue in the difficult days ahead.”
“It is at least a small comfort to me, as a gay rights and marriage equality advocate, to know that like any marriage, gay and lesbian couples are subject to the same complications and hardships that afflict marriages between heterosexual couples."Mr. Robinson continued in this vein of acting like a responsible adult. As we all know, in this day and age we're all French: we pretend to be blase about our lover's lover and about our bitter divorce. It's grown-up to be cool about divorce. Be cool, Gene.
“My belief in marriage is undiminished by the reality of divorcing someone I have loved for a very long time, and will continue to love even as we separate,” Robinson wrote in his column. “Love can endure, even if a marriage cannot.”Love can endure, even if a marriage cannot. Right. I keep forgetting that love is a feeling, not an action.
It's not like divorce could by definition mean someone's not loving someone. That'd be ridiculous.
But that's not the point here anyway. The reason I'm sharing this is to say that Mr. Robinson is right. Just like any marriage, gay and lesbian couples are subjected to the same complications and hardships that afflict marriages between heterosexual couples.
This is not Mr. Robinson's first divorce. He divorced his wife in 1986. He did so "amicably", for no other reason than that he could no longer be married. And that was fine. He divorced for no sound biblical reason, and was not defrocked.
Remember when you and I told the homosexual community that marriage was sacred? And then we went and got divorced like everyone else did? That's what made this okay. We declared marriage profane well before anyone started trying to say that marriage could be something besides what it obviously is.
One thing marriage obviously isn't is unholy. Or convenient. Or bitter. Or selfish. Or temporary.
Once we said it was those things, we were the ones who changed the definition of marriage.
I totally agree.
ReplyDeleteHere are some thoughts from a friend of mine who wanted to chime in anonymously:
ReplyDelete"I understand the Giant's point. In the same way I think "we" are responsible, to some degree, for the death of Christendom. Churches on every corner, but always on the retreat, unable to slow down much less halt the revolution, & more frequently on the revolution's side -- as with feminism, homosex, perpetual war, rampant capitalism, & zionism. We must realize that "the best of us" who came up out of our churches into politics, academia, & business leadership made in the end little if any difference. And now, increasingly, "the best" -- the elites -- are not of us, at least not nationally. More & more those who are allowed to rise to significant leadership are atheist gentiles or zionist jews. (There are filtering mechanisms in place, & for those "outsiders" who manage to advance in spite of the filters, well, we've seen what happens to them when they threaten to break through a certain glass ceiling. Think of the merciless propaganda employed against Perot, Buchanan, & Paul.) It is especially telling that not a single WASP is on the Supreme Court, since WASPs founded the country.
But, in the end I disagree with the giant a little bit. There has always been sin, & failure in marriage, but proud, open homosex only recently. The reason we have federally-sanctioned homosexuality, it seems to me, is that Christendom expired first, after which the whole culture sickened, leadership was corrupted, & ALL mediating institutions (most especially the federal courts & federal bureaucracy) were subverted. So, there was less & less resistance and, eventually, no resistance but rather promotion of homosex by those who had captured the centers of power."