5 Songs About Sex Christian Couples Should Listen To

Ah, Christian husbands. Sweet, sweet Christian husbands. Caught up in the carnival of oversexualization and shame that is our society, trying to navigate your marriages, your wives, your sexual sins and hangups, and your immense horndogginess, all at once.

That's awkward. Also, I feel awkward about using the word "immense" just now.

May I suggest that your marriage could use a little more rock n' roll? You know, from a Biblical perspective. And make that rock hard. Make that roll smooth.

Each of these songs can be your guide through different times and phases of your walk with wifey. Share these with her. These are for couples. Some are more directed toward husbands, some more toward wives. As always, there are no accusations, but mutual support and encouragement.

1. Keep Your Hands To Yourself, Georgia Satellites

During certain times you might want to keep your hands to yourself. For example, during the gentle phase many call "courtship", and the less pious call "dating", during which this song is clearly set.

No hugging, no kissing until you make her your wife.

Once she is your wife, this song can also be helpful during your brief times of mutual sexual abstention, as prescribed in 1 Corinthians 7:5, for devotion to prayer. Always remember, however, St. Paul's admonition that this should only be for a brief time. It is always good to "come together again". And I think you know what I mean.

Please don't nag your woman. Men are always in peril of being sexual "drippers", all the while believing that their wives are the only nag in the marriage. If you've memorized the "Can We ______?" in Mark Driscoll's sex book, you might be in danger of being a dripper. Consider keeping your hands to yourself for a time.







 

2. Abracadabra, Steve Miller Band

Husband, let your woman know a) that you want her, b) that her deeds in the bedroom are appreciated, and that c) her deeds in the bedroom are effective.

Your wife should know that you want to reach out and grab her. Every wife wants that from her husband all the time. Obviously you both have other things to do besides grab each other, but a standard part of the Christian marriage package that a husband should give his wife is the confidence that he desires her. You know, like a burning flame full of desire. Appreciation and gratitude to God and wife are the order of the day if one wishes to let the fire get higher.

Once the wife knows she is wanted and appreciated, she is better able to make the husband say "you make me hot, you make me sigh. Keep me burning for your love..." Because it's not about some sort of technique or ancient Eastern secret. It's about love and enthusiasm. It's about kindness and consideration. You know, mature married stuff.







 

3. I Want A Little Sugar In My Bowl, Nina Simone

Okay, this isn't really rock n' roll. But it belongs here anyway.

O husbands, have you complaints about the wife of your youth? Pray to God for mercy and realize that everything is your responsibility. Yours. You aren't to be your wife's accuser before God; you're to be her advocate. You can't worry if she's taking care of her end or looking after your "needs". So...you better start giving.

Give her some sugar in her bowl. Give her some honey deep in her soul.

What's the matter, daddy? Come on, save her soul. I ain't fooling. Now that's a theologically profound idea. It might even provide an insight into the always difficult 1 Timothy 2:15.

In your entire marriage, and in your chambers, o husband, you be the generous one. Give her some sugar. Right in her bowl.







 

4. Afternoon Delight, Starland Vocal Band

Why wait until the middle of the cold dark night?

Everything's a little clearer in the light of day. Be open, be communicative, and make love all day. And those of you who know me know that I cannot have used the phrase "make love" casually, since I view its use as a euphemism as deplorable. "Make love" is still listed in Merriam-Webster as to "woo or court" before it's listed as to "neck, pet, engage in sexual intercourse".

So make love to your wife all day, send her texts, make phone calls, do favors, speak sweet nothings, whatever. Consider yourself to be in a never-ending state of wooing; win your wife every day.

Do this, and your sky rocket might be in flight afternoon, evening, and night. Maybe even in the morning, before you've had your coffee, which is difficult but worth doing.







 

5. Squeeze Box, The Who

There are principally two things that Christians can learn from this tune (I say "principally" because the rich lessons that can be extracted from this subtle work are surely myriad).

First, regularity and frequency must be an important part of any marriage. For the mommy and daddy in this song, that meant all night, every night. That, it seems, was what their marriage required to be healthy. That might not be the way for all couples, but each should find their own rhythm. Where Afternoon Delight reminded us that hubby should always be in woo mode, Squeeze Box might serve to remind wives not to make their husbands work too hard.

Second, in a non-creepy way, it's a family affair. Squeeze Box is about a mommy and a daddy. I'm not saying that you should make it so that the kids can't sleep or that the neighbors are kept awake by the "music". Modesty is meet and right.

But modesty is a glorious and strong thing, very different from shame. Marriage is fundamentally a sexual relationship. That is what it is. It is the only Biblical sexual relationship (depending on how one uses the word "sexual" I here add distractingly). Your neighbors should know that you're married. Your kids should be confident that mommy and daddy love each other. They may not understand it now, but when they're older and trying to figure out how to play the squeeze box in their own marriages, they'll look back and see how you made music, and whether or not you loved it. You're teaching your kids about music right now, whether they hear you occasionally from the other side of the house or not.

So if nothing else, do it for the kids.





Comments

  1. I told Infinity that "Keep Your Hands to Yourself" will be her theme song.

    Awesome post, by the way.

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  2. But for Mark Driscoll's losing of the ability to blush, this was a great article. Thanks for sharing!

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